Moving in together it’s an important step, and to move smoothly we need to ask to our roommate a bunch of question before signing any contract.
“The treats is that without clarifying these points ahead, the couple can make assumptions that could not match with the reality”, said Dr. Sabitha Pillai-Friedman, assistant professor in the Human Sexuality Program at Widener University.
If the agreements are brought into a open discussion there is no room for problems or resentment later on.
So what is important to ask.
1 – Who is paying what?
And so what we purchase together, what do we miss, who brings what. It’s really key to discuss ahead these points states Andreas Syrtash, relationship expert.
It’s normal that in a relationship there is a saver and a spender, so it’s important to set the rules and the expectations.
2 – Will we put both name on the lease?
For sure it’s not an easy discussion, or can be uncomfortable because it foresee making hypothesis of a possible split of the couple, but it’s vital to get this alignment and be transparent with the partner since the beginning.
3 – How we handle daily shopping?
As well who will clean and when, who is cooking and who is washing, who is bringing out the garbage and so on…
It’s important to decide and agree in the daily routine, dividing the labor.
It’s important the couple create the plan and schedule of responsibilities.
4 – What about the guests?
If you dated for a while you should already know the style of your partner, if he or she loves guests, if it’s a daily or night person.
When living together it’s useful to define the rules also for that, for example noticing when someone comes over.
5 – Last but not least: why are we moving together
“This is something the majority of couples do not talk about”.
It could be to split the rent, or to enjoy being together, but can be also for more important plans like marry and have a family together.
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